SECRETS OF LIFE
12-22-23
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"Very seldom does a man or a woman challenge this disastrous self-concept
of what it means to win. If you even need to win anything, including the
argument, including getting your way, the very fact that you have a
compulsive need to win means that there is a loser there trying to win,
which means that the winning must be losing in actuality.
It is so essential for you to listen to yourself talk to yourself and catch
instantly all such definitions of you being right, being the winner,
calling yourself someone who has accomplished something that is good for
you. Watch your inner talk and the very presence, the very running on of
you thinking that there are rivals that you must win over means that you do
not know what spiritual winning is because you have chosen a horrible
substitute for it."
from a talk given 4/5/1986
V. H's Higher World - MP3 CD Volume 3, talk 54, track 1
