"Here is how to be relaxed and effortless in your relations with people:
Never contrive to make a relationship either a close or a distant one. Do
not permit your desires or ambitions to interfere with the natural flow of
events. Let the relationship fall into its own place, spontaneously, for in
that is enjoyment. It is not your duty to determine the closeness of a
relationship. Your only duty is to be a real person in it."
HOW TO HAVE EVERYTHING RIGHT THROUGH THE SUPERMIND
The Power of your Supermind, Chap. 15, p. 188 (Previous version)
Chap. 15, p. 240 (Current version)