HOLY GRIEF

  • Ecclesiastes 3:4 - A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;"

    Have you ever felt guilty or just a little awkward about enjoying yourself after the loss of your loved one? I did!

    I remember at my husband Jim's funeral, church members had made a large potluck for the after-service dinner. Jim's dad, three siblings and their spouses, niece, nephew and I all lived in four different States. So, they all decided after dinner to take family photos with their cell phones and invited me to join in. Consequently, I put on my saddest face, which wasn't hard under the circumstances, and just sat there quietly while they talked, smiled, and took turns taking pictures of each other. It just didn't seem right to smile when my husband's ashes were not even buried in in the ground yet.

    It took me quite a while before I felt comfortable enjoying myself without Jim by my side. But our merciful God taught me how to laugh between the tears and eventually dance through the sorrow. Praise be to God for His lovingkindness in Jesus name.

    Psalm 147:3 - He heals the brokenhearted, and binds up their wounds.

    Matthew 5:4 - Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted.

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  • Cecilia Pulliam
    Cecilia Pulliam After my husbands deaths, yes, I've been widowed twice, I thought life was over until through amazing coincidences, God sent me this scripture: " I believe to see the good things of the Lord in the land of the living. Expect the Lord, do manfully, and...  more
  • Karen Dow
    Karen Dow Cecilia, that is one of my favorite scriptures. I’ve never connected it with grief, but how apt. How well it flows healing in grief.
  • Yasmin Travers-Johnson
    Yasmin Travers-Johnson Hi Cinda, My husband transition in April this year. Are you a grief counsel for widows. I have things I like to talk about.